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Be True to Yourself

One of the best things I’ve experienced since I got married (online dating success story right here!) is that for the first relationship in my life, I can be myself.

This is huge! So many women remake themselves for every man they meet, conforming to his expectations of what a girlfriend/lover/wife should be. I did that for years, whether single or married, and looking back, I realize that not only did I betray myself, but I also set myself up for bad/toxic/doomed relationships.

At some point prior to meeting John- probably because I was fed up with the whole relationship “game” – I changed. When I met him I just started saying whatever I thought, and although most (the wrong) men would have said forget it, he responded with whatever he thought, and neither one of us fell apart or got hurt feelings…in fact, nothing bad happened!

Maybe that’s what makes us so right for one another, and why we are happy. We both accept that the other person has their own thoughts and feelings, and they aren’t good or bad, they just are. We’ve both lived a lot of years, have had a bajillion experiences both good and bad prior to meeting, and those experiences make us who we are today.

So today I’d like to encourage you to be yourself. If the guy you’re dating can’t accept you for who you really are, then he’s the wrong one for you. Be truthful about how you feel, say what you really think, and let the chips fall where they may. I promise you’ll be happier in the long run.



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